“In my country (Russia), if you are 25 year old woman and still not married, there’s something wrong with you”, so says my friend in my yoga studio. To which I replied, “Well, we’re in the US, and my entire family still thinks there’s something wrong with me. I don’t think it’s specific to Russia”.
And am I wrong??
Now that my cousin, Audrina, is married, it means that I am the next girl in line in my family to get hitched. So there is my aunt, asking me if I considered trying Match.com and my own grandmother readjusting my cleavage so that I could attract some men. My mother calls me weekly to tell me how she prays each night that I will find a good husband. Because, you know, nothing else is quite as important…. like, world peace, ending poverty, etc.
Here I was, thinking all along that I was still young and had plenty of time. But apparently, being 25 and single is akin to being a desperately, hopeless, outcast of society. But with so many other women choosing to focus on their career before settling down, am I really so different from all the other women my age?
I still want to further my career, travel, and enjoy living on my own for a few more years. I’m okay with not being anywhere close to being married. I like being on my own and doing my own thing, and I’m proud of that. Besides, the thought of even sharing a bathroom with a guy grosses me out.
But then there’s this nagging thought in the back of my mind that reminds me that I do in fact wish I had someone in my life. Not to consider marrying right now, but just someone to pass the time with and share my life with. Someone to be my companion and eat good food with me. Someone to give me hot sex on a regular basis (sorry to my cousins who had to read that- but don’t deny you don’t want that too!). I enjoy the fact that I am independent and can take care of myself. But sometimes, you don’t want to have to go through it all on your own. And it makes it even harder when you have your family reminding you how alone you are, and insinuating that you’re becoming increasingly hopeless.
But what makes it the most difficult is when you already have that someone in mind.
Oh well- maybe I will address the issue of needing hot sex on a regular basis first. That usually isn’t too difficult to find. Just gotta hit my contact list on my cell phone. Jorge, expect a call from me soon, baby!